Therefore, although in Christ I could be bold and order you to do what you ought to do, yet I appeal to you on the basis of love. Philemon 8-9
At this point Paul is older, but he’s still leaning on the side of love when it comes to tough conversations and difficult situations. He holds more authority than most (at least within the church at this time) but he doesn’t demand his way. This becomes even more impressive to me when I think about all of the little issues that Paul would have been dealing with. We can see several of them in his letters but certainly we have no clear picture of every stress, every hard place, every gentle correction, every vision adjustment, every doctrinal error, every church issue, every out right sin, that Paul had to deal with. He could shake an authoritative finger in disgust but instead he appeals in love. A great example, and much of the time he does it from prison.